I’m truly against infidelity in marriage. However, I’m also very dissatisfied with the theories and conclusions that surround it in this part of the world. It irks me when I hear the rhetoric: “all men cheat”, especially from women; and I’m saddened by the fact that women are asked to just prepare themselves for the possibility of an affair in their marriages because……(you know), while so many others who have experienced or are currently experiencing such event are asked to endure in perpetual misery and heartache with no progressive solution in sight. I like “progressive”, I think everyone should like the word “progressive”, but I digress. What if, there could be a way a couple can move on from an affair and turn it into a learning experience that would birth a new beginning in their marriage? You won’t believe my excitement when I stumbled on this video, I don’t only love it because of the humor but because it brings a fresh perspective on the subject.
Here, Relationship therapist Esther Perel examines why people cheat, and unpacks why affairs are so traumatic: because they threaten our emotional security. In infidelity, she sees something unexpected — an expression of longing and loss. A must-watch for anyone who has ever cheated or been cheated on, or who simply wants a new framework for understanding relationships.